IβM IN DILEMMA π₯Ί
I've been reflecting on my friendships with Jane and Abigail, and I'm still trying to process everything that's happened. I've known Jane since childhood, and we've been inseparable for years. We went to different schools in junior high, but we remained close. In school, I met Abigail, and we became best friends, bonding over shared experiences and interests. I introduced Jane to Abigail, and they got along well, despite being from different schools. When it came time to attend college, I was so invested in our friendship that I even stayed home for a whole year just so I could attend the same school as Jane, despite having passed and getting admission to a prestigious university. Unfortunately, Jane didn't pass the previous year, but she was able to make some reasonable passes when she rewrote her exams. Abigail had also applied to a different college for a training program, but she didn't get in due to not applying on time.
When it was time to attend college, Jane suddenly told me that her cousin would be staying with her, and she wouldn't be able to room with me as planned. I was devastated when I found out she had lied about the reason and actually wanted to stay alone. I felt betrayed and hurt, and our friendship suffered. Abigail and Jane seemed to move on without me, and I was left feeling left out. Then, I met a new girl on campus called Doris, and we started talking. We hit it off immediately, and I've since formed a close bond with her. We're incredibly close now, and we've shared a lot with each other. I value our friendship deeply.
However, Abigail has started visiting us, and I'm uncomfortable with how close she's getting to Doris. Doris doesn't know about our past issues, and I'm not sure how to handle the situation. To make matters worse, Abigail seems to be trying to form a trio with us, but I'm not interested in that. I don't want to go back to the dynamics we had before, and I'm not sure I'm ready to trust her again. What's even more complicated is that Abigail's mom got involved in her apology, and I eventually forgave her. However, despite her apology and efforts to make amends, I just can't seem to trust her again. What she did still reflects in my mind, and I'm struggling to move past it. I'm torn between trusting her and maintaining my friendship with Doris, while also protecting myself from potential hurt. I'm hoping to get some clarity on how to navigate these complex relationships.