I met a girl online like 5–6 months ago and eventually caught real feelings for her. When I told her about it, she answered vaguely, saying she “needed time.” Back then I thought it was normal, so I stayed patient and kept investing emotionally. I even gave her some pretty expensive gifts, not because I expected something back, but because my feelings were genuine.
But over time she started becoming distant. Replying slower, constantly being late to our calls or meetings, cancelling plans last minute, and barely communicating properly. I ignored a lot of those small red flags because I genuinely cared about her and hoped things would get better.
While I was in another country, she disappeared for several days completely. I was honestly worried something happened to her. Later she said she had family issues, and during one phone call she was even crying. I tried to comfort her and be supportive, but after that she still kept ignoring me and avoiding meeting in person.
At this point, I genuinely feel like I got played. Maybe her feelings were never as serious as mine, maybe she just liked the attention, emotional support, and everything I gave her. Because honestly, when someone truly loves you, they don’t keep you in a constant state of uncertainty, act “too busy” all the time, or ghost you instead of having an honest conversation.
I know I’m not perfect either, and maybe I made mistakes too. But the difference is that I was always ready to communicate, fix problems, and fight for the relationship, always chosing to make it all work out.
Now I’m just trying not to lose faith in love because of this whole situation. I still want to believe real feelings exist, but experiences like this really make you question people’s intentions.
P. S. I do understand that nobody is obliged to reciprocate with my feelings, but is it a reason to play with me? I think not
