CORDIAL ADVICE TO OPEN-MINDED HUSBANDS
Dear husband, build your home on love, that's what Islãm encourages, and Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam indeed showcased it, as his follower, you need to follow suit. Be friendly with your family to the point that, they'll miss you while you're away all times. If your wife and children are always happy that you're going out, such a husband is accursed and doomed. Behave in such a way that when you're not around, they'll always expect you to be back home, buy them gifts, take them out at your leisure times, especially during festive periods, make them exceptionally happy.
O Muslim husband, why must you destroy your wife with terrible utterances? Stop beating your wives with your tongue. Common! Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam never for once tongue-lashed his wives, he never raised a voice at them, if truly you want to be his true follower, be kind to your wives. The beloved Messenger was always gentle with his wives, he called them with romantic nicknames to make them feel special, he used to qualify Ã'ishah with Umayrah likewise others with different sweet monikers. He often showed them gestures of love and affection like pecking them on the forehead while leaving and entering home. Mr husband - you know how you do leave home roaring like lion everytime? Yet, you'll create scenes when you return home, haba! Be calming down man!
Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said: «The believers who show the most perfect Faith are those who have the best behaviour, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.» It was stated in another Hadith narrated from Ibn Abbas that: The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said: «The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.»
The moment you raised your hands at your wife, you've lost it all, that's indeed an unacceptable act. Be patient with your wives on trivial matters. Take proper care of them, appreciate their efforts, cherish them and establish a true love for them unless the wife is crazy in the head, that is a discussion for another day. Being a stingy husband is another level of problem entirely, as a husband, it is mandatory to spend on your family. With regards to stinginess, your wife is allowed to take, not beyond what suffices her and her children if she eventually discovers where you parsimoniously keep your money - to avoid that, be generous. Even, if you're impecunious, you must share the little you have with her and the
children or open up with nice words - they'll understand.
Allãh subhanahu wa tala says: “Let the rich man spend according to his means; and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allãh has given him.” Sûratu Ttalaq (Qur'an 65:7)
The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said to Hind bint `Utbah, the wife of Abu Sufyan, who had complained that he did not spend on her: «Take what is sufficient for you and your children, on a reasonable basis.»
If you don't want her to take from your money and you don't want Allãh's wrath to shower upon you, be a good head of the family, behave husbandly. A word is enough for the wise. Fear Allãh subhanahu wa tala! Don't let your wife and children be the reason you'll end up in the blazing inferno.
Note: what a wife takes for her needs from her stingy husband is not categorised as stealing, she only takes her due right.
